Star Wars Obsession – ABI & Autism
My son has a Star Wars Obsession. Not just every day obsessed either. Everything revolves around it. If you have a child with an A.B.I or Autism – You will understand Autism & obsessions. You will understand the line that is crossed from normal “fandom” over something into the world of serial repetitive obsessive compulsion with an item, song or even a phrase or word.
I love the fact his star wars stuff has mostly been picked up from op shops & Garage sales. The Star Wars obsession is not connected to the marketing of toys and the destruction of my bank account. He doesn’t care where it comes from.
When he asked me for a foam light sabre from Big W I couldn’t say no because overall he doesn’t really ask for much. I have refrained for so long from buying one though because knowing autism obsessions and A.B.I. too well I knew what was coming.
In my home, I always have to be prepared when I bring something home because it’s hard to tell whether Ryan will become obsessed with the item. The underlying emotions surrounding the obsession:
- need to stay in control
- fear of losing the item
- fear the item won’t last
It’s surrounded by thoughts of insecurity and attachment to the item. All feelings predominantly powered by anxiety which can also be the product of a very traumatic event.
In Ryan’s younger years it could be something as insignificant as a pen or a piece of rope. I have learnt to try to avoid taking the items out with us because if they are lost or broken it can become a very difficult situation.
My son didn’t put this thing down for almost 48 hours. He slept with it. If I tried to talk about anything else he would tap it on the ground to show his disapproval in me trying to change the subject. I’m Star Wars exhausted and GROUNDHOG DAY this morning I’ve woken up to Star Wars for breakfast….here we go again…
I think anyone can relate though whether your child has Autism or not. I’m sure if your child just gets hung up on thinks they are so into you can find some sort of humour in this. It’s something that most parents on some level eventually will have to deal with.